How to Survive Ego Death?

3 Truths About Getting Through the Void

You're in the void. The old you is gone and the new you hasn't arrived yet. You don't know how to be, how to function, how to survive in this in-between space where nothing makes sense and nothing works. You're looking for instructions, for steps, for someone to tell you what to do - but the truth is, there are no rules here. The old rules died with the old you - and the new ones haven't been written yet. So how do you get through this? How do you survive when everything you knew about yourself is gone and you're standing in the dark with nothing to hold onto?

Here are 3 Soul Sparks for surviving ego death when you're in the void and don't know how to keep going.

SOUL SPARK #1

What do I do during ego death?

The old rules don't apply and the new ones aren't set yet - so now you follow the body. If you need to eat, eat. If your feet want to walk, walk. If you need to cry, cry. You can't think your way through this, you have to FEEL your way through. Let the old version die without trying to resuscitate it. Don't try to figure out who you're becoming yet - you're not there yet. Just be in the death - let it happen. The doing comes later. Right now, the only job is to stay alive, stay present, and let the dissolution happen without fighting it. Your body knows what it needs even when your mind is spinning. Trust the body. It will carry you through.

SOUL SPARK #2

How long does ego death last?

It depends. Some people stay in the void for months. Others move through in hours. The speed depends on how much inner work you've already done, how much you resist versus surrender, and whether you have support to help you name what's happening. Having a witness - someone who can say "this is personality death, you're not crazy" - helps enormously. The more you fight it, the longer it lasts. The more you try to hold onto the old identity, the more painful the death becomes. Surrender speeds it up. Support speeds it up. Naming what's happening speeds it up. But even then, it takes as long as it takes. There's no shortcut through the void. There's just you, in the dark, letting something die so something else can be born.

SOUL SPARK #3

What's on the other side of ego death?

A new you - a version of you that doesn't operate by the old rules. You won't know exactly who you are yet, but you'll know who you're NOT anymore. And from that clarity, the new self starts to form. The fog lifts. The ground solidifies. And you realize: you didn't fall apart. You broke through. On the other side, things that used to trigger you don't anymore. Patterns that controlled you dissolve. You feel different in your body - more solid, more real, more here. The world looks the same but you're seeing it through new eyes. You've been reborn. Not metaphorically - energetically. The old you is actually gone. And the new you is just beginning to discover what's possible now that you're no longer limited by who you used to be.

Every time you follow your body instead of your fear, let the old version die without resuscitating it, and trust that there's something on the other side - you're surviving ego death. If you're in the void right now and need a tether, explore RITUALS and Constellations - programs designed to hold you through the death and help you land in the new life that's waiting.

Xx, Shaia

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