Am I Stuck In-Between?

3 Truths About Who You Were and Who You're Becoming

There's a particular kind of lostness that happens in the middle - when your old life doesn't fit anymore but your new one hasn't arrived yet. You're not who you were, but you don't know who you're becoming. Nothing feels solid. Nothing feels true. You're floating in this dark in-between space where all the maps you used to follow have dissolved, and you can't see far enough ahead to know if you're even going the right direction. This isn't failure. This is the gap - and you're not meant to navigate it alone.

Here are 3 Soul Sparks for understanding what it means to be stuck in the in-between, why your old life doesn't fit but the new one hasn't started, and how to move forward when you feel completely lost.

SOUL SPARK #1

Why do I feel like I'm stuck between who I was and who I'm becoming?

You're in the space where the old identity has crumbled but the new one hasn't crystallized yet - and your nervous system hates this liminal territory because there's nothing solid to hold onto, nothing familiar to orient around. You can't go back to who you were because that person doesn't exist anymore, those patterns don't work, that life feels like a costume you've outgrown. But you also can't leap forward into who you're becoming because you don't know what that looks like yet, you don't trust it, you can't see the shape of it clearly enough to step into it fully. The stuck feeling isn't evidence you're doing something wrong - it's the natural discomfort of being in metamorphosis, of being dissolved and not yet reformed, of trusting that something is happening even when you can't see it.

SOUL SPARK #2

What does it mean when I feel like my old life doesn't fit but my new one hasn't started yet?

It means you're in the void - the space between stories, between identities, between versions of reality. Your old life is too small, too constricting, too false to inhabit anymore, but your new life hasn't materialized yet because you're still in the process of becoming the person who can hold it. This gap is where all the transformation actually happens, where your system reorganizes, where the old conditioning gets cleared out to make room for what's trying to emerge. The discomfort isn't a sign you're lost - it's the evidence that you're right in the middle of the hardest part, the part where nothing is certain and you have to trust the process without knowing the outcome. Your new life can't start until you're willing to sit in this uncomfortable space of not knowing who you are or what comes next.

SOUL SPARK #3

How do I move forward when I feel completely lost in the in-between?

You move forward by staying present with what's here instead of forcing yourself to figure it all out or rush to the next thing. The in-between asks you to be with the lostness, to let yourself not know, to trust that you don't need a map to take the next small step. Maybe moving forward looks like resting instead of pushing, or letting yourself grieve what's ending instead of pretending you're fine, or asking for support instead of trying to navigate this alone. The movement isn't about making big leaps or having clarity - it's about staying with yourself through the disorientation, breathing through the fear of not knowing, and trusting that the path reveals itself one step at a time. You're not supposed to see the whole way from here. You're just supposed to stay present for this moment, this breath, this small choice to not abandon yourself in the dark.

This is what THE ABYSS holds space for - when you're in the dark in-between and need support to stay with yourself, to let things shift, to move forward without forcing. It's here to remind you that you're not alone in the gap.

Xx, Shaia

Soul Sparks is part of RITUALS by Shaia - a multidimensional series of healing programs for times of change, grief, and sacred rebuilding when you are walking through transformation, rupture, and the process of becoming who you truly are.

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